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Boredom can lead to many creative discoveries within ourselves and on the flip side, it can also lead to destructive patterns like stalking on exes on IG

Holistic LivingAmanda BlairApril 7, 2020exes, ig stalking, quaratine, dating, love, moving on, letting go, releasing, anxious attachment, why I can't move on, relationship coaching, anxious attachment and sex, attachment style Comments

But, maybe

But, maybe

Have you ever met someone and they are oh-so-cute, check off a lot of your boxes— preferred height, cool career, exciting hobbies, close to their family, like the obscure think you like too—, but there are also red flags?

HonestAmanda BlairFebruary 5, 2020but maybe, red flags, anxious attachment, anxious attachment and dating, attachment style, dating, relationships Comments

Trading sex for intimacy

Trading sex for intimacy

Humans with anxious attachment have a catch-22 when it comes to sex.

HonestAmanda BlairJanuary 9, 2020trading sex for intimacy, sex, intimacy, false intimacy, anxious attachment and sex, anxiety, attachment theory, attachment style, avoidant attachment, arambol, anxious-avoidant trap, dating and anxious attachmenet Comments

Text energy

Text energy

As my friend Kat would say, I have a WORD for you today. Ready?

Holistic LivingAmanda BlairDecember 17, 2019texting, dating, how much is he texting, waiting for a text, anxious attachment, attachment style Comments

Direct communication

Direct communication

When we are stuck in our attachment, we typically don’t communicate directly.

HonestAmanda BlairNovember 13, 2019direct communication, communication, communication in relationships, mixed messages, projecting, needs, know your needs, self love, self worth, relationships, dating, anxious attachment, attachment style, insecure attachments, earned secure Comment

Dating burnout

Dating burnout

One thing I hear a ton from my clients during our first session is that they are burnt out on dating or the “apps”. They feel like all they meet are duds and are tired of not meeting their person.

HonestAmanda BlairOctober 9, 2019dating burnout, dating is fun, dating, relationships, foundation, full sundae, relationship anxiety, new relationship, attachment style, relationship coach Comment

I cracked the code on dating

I cracked the code on dating

The last round of dating I did before I met my boyfriend was the best dating experience I have ever had.

HonestAmanda BlairSeptember 17, 2019dating, cracked the code, dating is fun, how to make dating fun, online dating, date around, earned secure, attachment theory, attachment style, full sundae, solid foundation Comment

Training wheels

Training wheels

When we first start holding our boundaries, it can be challenging.

HonestAmanda BlairSeptember 4, 2019anxious attachment, dating, boundaries, training wheels and boundaries, self worth, self love, relationship coaching, relationships, dating advice, dating and anxious attachmenet, attachment style, attachment theoryComment

Anxious-avoidant trap

Anxious-avoidant trap

Humans with anxious attachment will know this story well—

HonestAmanda BlairAugust 29, 2019anxious-avoidant trap, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, attachment style, attachment theory, dating with anxious attachment, relationship coaching, real talk with ab, why am i anxious in relationships Comments

Preoccupation exercise

Preoccupation exercise

When we have anxious attachment we have a tendency towards preoccupation.

Holistic LivingAmanda BlairAugust 8, 2019preoccupation, anxious attachment, attachment style, attachment theory, dating and anxious attachmenet, dating, relationships, inner child work, inner childComment

Fantasy versus reality

Fantasy versus reality

When we haven’t fully stepped into our worth, we can get caught up in the fantasy of dating versus the reality.

Holistic LivingAmanda BlairAugust 2, 2019fantasy, reality, relationship coaching, relationships, real talk with ab, attachment style, anxious attachmentComment

I feel confused

I feel confused

Have you ever met a potential partner and after hanging out felt confused?

HonestAmanda BlairJuly 8, 2019confused, dating, relationships, relationship anxiety, dating and anxious attachmenet, anxious attachment, attachment style, attachment theory Comment

Keep dating

Keep dating

How do you approach dating?

HonestAmanda BlairJune 5, 2019dating, dating with anxious attachment, anxious attachment, dating and anxious attachmenet, Attachment theory, attachment style, dating is fun, relationships, relationship coachComment

IRL

IRL

How do you meet someone in real life?

HonestAmanda BlairMay 23, 2019meeting in real life, IRL, dating, dating in the wild, self worth, unblocking, attachment style, anxious attachment, trust, trusting the Universe, stay out of God's buisnessComment

Soothe thy self

Soothe thy self

in my practice I get asked a lot how to deal with getting activated from my clients with anxious attachments.

Holistic LivingAmanda BlairApril 17, 2019soothing, self soothing, anxious attachment, dating and anxious attachment, attachment activated, Attachment theory, attachment style Comment

Self abandonment

Self abandonment

Self abandonment— don’t do it.

HonestAmanda BlairMarch 20, 2019abandonment, self abandonment, coaching, love coach, relationship coach, anxious attachment, dating and anxious attachment, attachment style, Attachment theory, self love, self care, love, dating, real talk, real talk with abComment

Interdependence vs Independence

Interdependence vs Independence

We are taught to be independent, strong and resilient.

HonestAmanda BlairMarch 13, 2019interdependence, independence, codependency, self love, dating, interdependent relationships, nature, real talk, love, anxious attachment, dating and anxious attachment, Attachment theory, attachment style, avoidant attachment Comment

Anxious attachment and dating

Anxious attachment and dating

Okay, so you have an anxious attachment style. Now what?