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Anxious-avoidant trap

Humans with anxious attachment will know this story well—

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Sex timeline

When we start dating, I think a lot of us question when to start having sex. When I was in my 20’s I was told waiting until after the third date would mean the dating would turn into a relationship.

Holistic LivingAmanda BlairAugust 7, 2019sex, when do I have sex, dating and sex, relationships, dating and anxious attachmenet, anxious attachment and sex, relationship coaching, real talk with ab Comments

Fantasy versus reality

When we haven’t fully stepped into our worth, we can get caught up in the fantasy of dating versus the reality.

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Social media stalking

Be honest, do you stalk your exes Instagram?

Holistic LivingAmanda BlairApril 23, 2019social media, social media stalking, anxious attachment, dating and anxious attachment, relationships, relationship anxiety, real talk with ab, real talk Comment

Casual sex

Casual sex— do or don’t?

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Self abandonment

Self abandonment— don’t do it.

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Anxious attachment and dating

Okay, so you have an anxious attachment style. Now what?

We are the rule

How many times have we heard a potential partner tell us what they want (or don’t want) but because we wanted another thing from them we thought we could change them and they would eventually want the same?

Holistic LivingAmanda BlairFebruary 11, 2019Rule, exception, dating, self worth, DPS, disney princess syndrome, love, dating advice, real talk, real talk with ab, travel, vietnamComment

Stop looking. No really.

When I was single for 8 years, I was pretty desperate for a relationship.

Holistic LivingAmanda BlairDecember 12, 2018love, stop looking, finding love, single season, how to stop looking, real talk, real talk with ab Comments

A guide to enjoying online dating

I’ve been single again for about 7 months. And I’m loving it.

HonestAmanda BlairDecember 5, 2018online dating, dating protocol, dating is fun, boundaries, self love, self worth, real talk, real talk with ab, love coach, lists, calling in my list, partners, test, testsComment

How to get over an ex

Whew. This is going to be one my most venerable posts. Why? Well, the stories I share here used to create a lot of shame within me. And though, I don’t feel that shame presently, sharing this still feels raw. It feels really important to share though because I know other humans go through this too. How do we get over an ex we can’t seem to get over?

HonestAmanda BlairOctober 30, 2018real talk, relationships, exes, love, how to, real talk with ab, getting over an exComment

Embracing singledom

After a relationship ends it can feel tricky to be * gasp * single again.

Holistic LivingAmanda BlairOctober 24, 2018single, single lady, single season, embrace the single, real talk, real talk with ab Comment

Acting my authenticity

“You don’t act like a 30 year old Amanda!”

HonestAmanda BlairOctober 11, 2018act your age, age, ageism, act your joy, act you authenticity, act your love, love, self worth, self work, real talk with ab, real talkComment

Vulnerability

I am a love coach. What that means is I help my clients find love. The way I do help is by guiding them on rebuilding their inner foundation so that it is rooted in self love, self worth and their own power. Once they have built a foundation and trust in themselves then they can go to call in the relationship of their dreams. How do I know this works? I did it for myself first.

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It's your wounds

When I was in college I met a boy and we dated on and off for a year. I was very in love with him but could never fully express my feelings because the relationship never felt secure. He never told me how he felt about me for one and for two we barely saw each other despite the fact that we lived a whole 5 minutes from the other and went to the same college. We also cheated on each other! It was a weird relationship to say the least. But, I couldn’t let him go! Even after we broke up and he was dating someone else, I was still his side chick. I told my friends at the time even though logically I understood why I should walk away, my heart wouldn’t let me.

HonestAmanda BlairSeptember 18, 2018wounds, lead with your heart, childhood, subconcious, subconscious, dating, real talk with ab, real talk, relationships Comment

Needs

Once upon a time, I was dating a truly wonderful guy. I hadn't written a list down for the partner I was looking for at that time but, if I had, he would have been the whole thing. He treated me like a Queen, was romantic without me asking, loved me and had his shit together. He was fantastic. Yet, I constantly complained to him about him not doing this or that enough. When we broke up, he told me he felt like nothing he did was enough. It wasn't. However, it wasn't because of something he wasn't doing. It was because of something I wasn't doing.

Holistic LivingAmanda BlairJuly 30, 2018real talk with ab, needs, meet your own needs, self love, relationships, neediness, needyComment

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